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Later, after you have finished this book, if you come back and reread this description of me at this time of my life, I guarantee that you will easily be able to describe many of my facial traits and the Wu Xing ele- ment that determined my personality at that time! My background, and my intended future, was in filmmaking and writing. What had attracted me to Tucson was the proximity of so many Native American tribes.
I was only six months old when my family moved to a small Air Force base in Vermont, where my father be- came the fire chief. It did, however, leave an empty place in my heart.
Now that I was living amid so many Natives, in a more favorable time, I wanted to learn more about my heritage by writ- ing a story about the Navajo, Pima, or Apache people. After several false starts, I began a novel about a battle of water rights and the Apache tribes set in in Arizona. One morning I went to the Arizona Historical Society, where I was spending day after day researching life in the Old Pueblo, and saw an intriguing new exhibition mounted in the lobby.
It was on the history of the Chinese in Tucson, from to the early s. Fifty or sixty sepia-toned photographs papered the narrow lobby walls. Photo- graph after photograph depicted Chinese immigrant men dressed in their pajama- like trousers and jackets, their long queues snaking from under round hats and making a straight black line down the middle of each of their backs.
Others stared solemnly into the camera lens from their rickety and overflowing produce wagons. One picture especially pulled me, and I found myself holding my breath, staring at one single, tiny image of a young Chinese man among many others grouped tightly in front of a mercantile store on a dry dirt street.
I know you, I thought. I know every- thing about you. I even know your name is Sing Cang. And then I fainted. I had never fainted before, and I was frightened at first, but within a few minutes I knew that something profound had happened to me. That afternoon I changed the theme of my book from the Apaches and water rights to the anti-Chinese movement that was building in southern Arizona in No one wanted to talk to me.
After a month of curt refusals I gave up. Her wid- owed great-uncle had just arrived from Taiwan and was willing to talk with me. I began to wonder what a newly arrived Taiwanese man could tell me about the Chinese in the Old West. Lee brought me to the backyard, where Mr. Yi Ping Wong was sitting by the pool, dressed in a lightweight brown wool suit in the hundred-degree weather. She served us iced tea and then left on some errands. So far Mr. I asked him a few polite questions. He just smiled.
Finally he pointed to my car in the driveway and then to both of us. After a few more cha- rades, Mr. Ping and I went for a ride into the desert. Sitting atop some jagged rocks overlooking a gorgeous sweep of saguaros and paloverdes, Mr. Ping finally spoke. You not Chinese.
Ping thought for a few minutes. I will tell you what is not good about it. So every day we went to the desert and I told him about the story and he told me what was wrong with it. Which was pretty much everything. How he was considered a master diag- nostician, even better than his grandfather had been. Besides being a font of information on Chinese culture, Mr.
Ping was quite good company. But there was something uncanny about the way he would tell me about myself. It took a while before I realized that Mr. Ping made his remarkable diagnoses by reading my face. He had said so several times, but I thought it was a euphemism or a language barrier. So began my study. For four years Mr. Ping and I would go to the desert and he would teach me Mien Shiang. At the beginning of our third year Mr.
It was too hot for him in Tucson. I suggested he might like it better if he traded in that brown wool suit for some Bermuda shorts and sandals. But he was determined to go back home. A few months later he arranged for me to meet an old friend and teacher from China who now lived in New York. That began my sporadic study with the creative and formidable Mr. Wong at a little tea shop in Chinatown for my lessons.
It was at least two years into my informal study with Mr. Wong that I learned how hard Mr. Ping had lobbied him to take me on as an appren- tice of sorts. Women were not healers in China, and Mr.
At least not of Chinese medicine; Western medicine was not his concern. I had long since abandoned my novel, but I was interested in writing about this strange and ancient diagnostic tool.
For once, my vague- ness was my ticket to getting what I needed. A relative of his knew a relative of a neighbor who led me to a few informal teachers in my area. Of particular note was Mr. Ling Wu Cheng in Mon- terey Park, California, who let me come to his herb shop on quiet Monday afternoons and ask him about face reading.
The idea seemed absurd at that time. I was neither a doctor of Traditional Chi- nese Medicine nor an acupuncturist. But Mien Shiang had become my passion, so I began to teach others in the same informal way I had been taught and mentored by my teachers. Within a short time I was approached by so many healers of multidisciplines that I had to present workshops to include more students.
Eventually, I formed a relation- ship with the founders of Yo San University of Traditional Chinese Medicine, who were impressed with my knowledge and ability to interpret my Mien Shiang readings. In other words, you will not study your facial features and markings to determine only your personality traits, or only your emotional and spiritual well-being, or only your physical health.
There is no separation. If you are in an emotional crisis, it will most likely show on your face. And where and how those signs appear on your face will alert you to specific corresponding physical and spiritual conditions that can be- come vulnerable as a result of that emotional imbalance.
When one aspect of your be- ing is out of balance, all will be imbalanced. Sometimes it takes a while to get used to this holistic approach. In our culture we usually rely on an allopathic doctor an M.
Of course, even though we approach face reading holistically, many times we fo- cus on one of the three aspects more than the others. Its purpose was to educate students to use Mien Shiang as a critical diagnostic tool in their medical practices. Within that program, there is equal emphasis on the physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of all symptoms, ailments, and diagnoses.
Naturally, people in corpo- rate groups want to know about their health, and I always agree to let anyone know privately if I see something that might suggest a health problem.
We will focus primarily on the characteristics related to mind and spirit and how being able to identify those traits in yourself and everyone around you will lead you to a more fulfilled life. While it is interesting to know that the size and shape of your nose reveals your ego, drive, and leadership potential, it is only part of the information we can gather from analyzing the nose, and all our features.
Equally important is having a comprehensive knowledge of the five basic Taoist personality types before learning which facial fea- tures are associated with each of the Five Elements, and what their specific traits are. I have structured this book so that by the time you delve into the detailed charac- teristics of each feature in Part III, you will have an abundant knowledge of where those Taoist interpretations come from, and what they mean in relation to the Five Elements.
When you have completed your own facial analysis, you will also under- stand your basic Five Element personality type. I am usually met with a quiet sea of faces staring blankly at me. Everyone can ar- ticulate why we have facial features. We have eyes to see, noses to breathe and to smell, mouths to breathe and to eat, ears to hear and to balance, eyelashes to protect our eyes; but what about the face in its entirety? We recognize one another most of- ten by our faces. True, most of us have distinguishing body shapes, or a distinct gait and posture.
But how many times have you rushed up to greet a close friend, and when she turned to face you, you realized you had mistaken her for someone else? Of all the billions of people on this grand planet nearly 7 billion, in fact we each have our own distinctive look.
Even identical twins are not truly identical. Think of it: We all have two eyes, two eyebrows, and two ears, and they are all in the same order and position as those of every other human being in the world. Yet we all look differ- ent, because we all are different. We are each unique and irreplaceable, and our faces reflect that every time someone looks at us. We express our feelings, our thoughts, and our moods on our faces.
Along with body language our faces are integral in nonverbal communication. Just as tightly crossed arms indicate anger and noncooperation, a tensely set jaw and narrowed eyes convey those same emotions and attitudes. Scientists acknowledge seven basic and universally recognized facial expressions: Even babies as young as seven months old respond appropriately to facial expressions.
As effective as the face is at communicating emotions, it is equally capable of concealing or betraying true feelings. Facial expressions are influenced as much by culture as by biology. In China and in other Eastern countries, people have been prac- ticing the art of Thick Black Theory for centuries. Thick refers to the face, and Black refers to the heart. To have Thick Face means you use your blank, expressionless face as a shield to protect yourself from the negative thoughts and influences of others, thereby never revealing your true feelings and emotions.
To have Black Heart means you can still your heart, like cold, black ice, to become impervious to the dark and harmful thoughts of those who might wish you harm. Our culture practices its own form of Thick Face when we smile at the boss who tells us we have to work late, again, or look surprised when Aunt Sophie gives us yet another rock-hard fruitcake for Christmas. A week before the seminar I arranged with the design manager to have my assistant go to the agency and photograph the design team while they worked and interacted.
The only requirements were that they remove all jewelry, including rings and watches, and that they roll up their sleeves as high as they could. On the morning of the first day of the seminar, the fifteen designers drifted into the company meeting room and found pinned to the easels and walls over a hundred cropped black-and-white photographs depicting only their hands.
Some hands were photographed in extreme close-up, some were blurry with expressive motion, and some were lying still in quiet repose. Everyone flocked to the photos, laughing and having a great time guessing which hands belonged to whom. They were stunned when they realized just how much guessing was going on. At the end of half an hour there were many disagreements and contradictions. I suggested we take a quick break for the coffee and pastries awaiting us at the far end of the room.
As we snacked and chatted by the pastry table, my assistant rolled in three long marker boards covered front and back with blank butcher paper. The recognition was instant. Even if the picture was blurred or angled or the lighting was poor, the artists recognized themselves and each other in the small images from across the room.
When we all gathered around the face photographs, I went from shot to shot and asked what emo- tion was being expressed in each one.
The designers were at least 90 percent in agree- ment for each photograph. But most people are accurate at least 75 to 80 percent of the time. After they had so successfully identified the emotions in the photographs, I asked everyone to sit down and to introduce themselves to me, but not to tell me anything about themselves. Let me tell you all about you over these next couple days, I sug- gested.
Following our introductions, I gestured to a dark-haired woman of about twenty- seven and the man in his midthirties with the clean-shaved head sitting next to her.
And I can tell by their expressions that Marlena is a little embarrassed by my attention, and Richard is amused. Am I right? Patti, a woman with a glittering strand of semiprecious gems wound artfully around her long neck, spoke up. I can tell from your eyebrows that even though you are the first one to offer help to your teammates, you have a very difficult time asking for help for yourself, and that means you often fall behind, even in trouble- free projects.
By the end of today, even. Then come back and start at the beginning so you may fully understand the fascinating and revealing intricacies of Mien Shiang. Find out through this ancient art and science which fea- tures and markings on your face you have inherited from your parents and ancestors, and which ones you have acquired through your own life experiences.
Learn more about Yin and Yang and the Five Elements and how to use these Taoist modalities to build and stretch your knowledge until you can read not only certain fundamental fa- cial traits, but hundreds of personality and behavioral characteristics associated with your basic nature.
The principles of Yin and Yang and of Wu Xing are the core of Taoism, and we will keep referring back to each of them in greater detail and depth as we broaden our knowledge of face reading. Just as doctors of Traditional Chinese Medi- cine and Western allopathic medicine who use Mien Shiang as a diagnostic tool are not going to ignore the rest of the person, nor should you in your evaluations.
So I bring a few people to the front of the room and we look at them. We focus on their stance, their breath, and their general physical energy. And that difference has an energetic quality about it, and that energy does move—sometimes quickly, sometimes hardly at all, and sometimes up or down or maybe even in a soft circular motion.
Yin and Yang are constantly seeking a balance, as well as demonstrating the obvious need for an opposite for any one thing to exist.
If we did not have dark, we would not know that there is light; if we never experienced sorrow, we would not know the wonder of joy. Yang is day, Yin is night. Yang is hot, Yin is cold. The comparisons are never-ending. Is there symmetry between the Mountains and the Valleys of the face? The Mountains are the hard, sharp, and stable parts of the face, and we call them the Yang areas.
The Valleys, or the soft, fluid, rounded, and changing compo- nents of the face, are the Yin areas. Therefore, the hard bone structures such as the forehead, brow bones, cheek- bones, chin, and jaws are Yang.
The softer cartilage features—such as the ears and nose, which continue growing after puberty; the tissue areas such as those padding the cheeks and chin and nose tip; and the mouth and the eyes, which are soft and fluid—are all Yin features.
Her cheeks and round chin also appear supple, as though they have a little padding over the bone. Marilyn Monroe also had soft Yin features: Oprah Winfrey is another great example of a Yin face, with her prominently round cheeks and nose tip, her full, soft mouth, and the softness around her eyes. Lance Armstrong has a model Yang face with his long, hard nose; wide, thin mouth; high cheekbones; strong, hard chin; and strong brow bones.
Although Arnold Schwarzenegger has a bit more of a fleshy face than Lance Armstrong, his features are also predominantly Yang, especially his brow bones, nose, cheekbones, and chin. Many people have a combination of Yin and Yang faces. Think of the star of the television series The Sopranos, James Gandolfini.
With all of these Yin and Yang characteristics, James Gandolfini is an interesting balance of energies, as so many of us are. Yin and Yang are always changing, just as our faces change many times and ways throughout our lives. How often have you seen old photographs of people you know and yet not recognized them? As we mature, some features such as our nose may lengthen and widen while other features such as our mouth and eyes might shrink or sink. Stress and grief may temporarily cause our entire face to sag and wrinkle or turn ashen.
And great happiness gives us a glow and literally perks up and plumps out our features. Someone asked me recently if the ideal face is a perfectly balanced symmetrical face.
The answer, of course, is only if you are striving for a perfectly balanced life of mind, body, and spirit. On the other hand, complete balance is not ideal for everyone.
The more Yang you have, the more of a doer you are—out there in the world leading, pushing the boundaries, getting things done. If you have more Yin, you are more in- ward, more imaginative and contemplative, with the gift to think things through be- fore acting.
They often make excellent partners, each provid- ing an insight and an expertise that the other would never gather on his or her own. If each of those people were perfectly balanced, they might only skim the surface of each situation rather than experience their own unique highs and great depths. He was usually punctual, but I could understand how difficult it must have been for him to get his two young boys off to school and his one-year-old baby girl to the babysitter and still be on time.
As I waited for Paul, an old man stopped near my table and looked at me with a disarming directness. I smiled briefly, then looked down at my newspaper, not wanting a conversation with the stranger. Suddenly I realized the old man was my friend Paul. I had been out of town and had not seen Paul for several weeks, and in his sorrow he had aged two decades in ten days. I will never forget the grief lines running down from under his eyes, cutting deeply into his sunken, drawn cheeks.
There were so many more lines—shooting out from around his eyes, circling and pinching his mouth, furrowing his forehead. His face was as gray and thin as the overcast day. His color returned and he lost the slackness in his lower face.
Slowly, he began once again to look like a healthy forty-year-old man. It was later made into a film, and I urge you to rent this heartbreaking and achingly funny story. A couple of times, as he re- lives his grief, those long, deep lines suddenly reappear on his cheeks. By the end of the film, as Paul reassures his audience, and himself, that his life has come full circle, once again full of wonder and love, you can see the grief lines literally disappear, and the fullness of joy reflected on his face.
Every person comes into the world with a little more Yin or a little more Yang, and that balance will shift throughout life. For some, the shifting of Yin and Yang will be like a boat rocking gently on a lake; for others, it will be like a wild ride on a stormy sea.
Our faces reflect these ever-changing Yin and Yang balancing acts from the begin- ning to the end of our lives. The metaphor was used first to describe the evolving cyclical seasons by dividing the year into five segments, or phases—spring, summer, late summer, autumn, and winter—and then assigning each season an element that would help to explain the nature of the seasonal changes and interactions, including the interrelationships among seasons.
Even the most humble peasants could relate to these metaphors and their specific associated traits in order to effectively farm their land, fish their lakes, and prepare their homes for the inevitable revolution of climate.
These same associations were later applied to every single aspect of life, whether it was physical, mental, or spiritual. This Generating Cycle is the sympathetic cycle of harmony and support, meaning that each element receives sup- port from the previous element and gives support to the following element.
Our faces reflect our dominant characteristics and traits, giving us instant awareness of our basic constitutions for health, emotionality, and spirituality, as well as personality. It is the shapes, sizes, colors, and markings on our faces that determine which of the Five Elements best define our nature and personality. When you become familiar with the emotion, color, shape, body organ, sense organ, sense, direction, climate, season, and expression associated with each of the Five Elements, you will begin to see how those traits reflected on your face define your Five Element personality type.
Only today does the fire burn brightly. If so, we can be fairly certain most of the following will be true: Your dominant emotion is joy, your skin tone is pink or reddish, you have an oval-shaped face, your tongue is often wagging in excited speech, most of your ail- ments are related to the Qi energy of your heart either physically, emotionally, or spiritually, your laughter is frequent, the south is your significant direction, and you are most affected by heat and summer.
If you find you have mainly Earth features, your dominant emotion is worry, your skin tone is yellowish, you have a square-shaped face, your mouth is prominent and you are comforted by tasty food, most of your ailments are related to the Qi of your stomach either physically, emotionally, or spiritually, you have a singsonglike voice, like a soft sigh you are most drawn to the center, and you are most affected by mois- ture and late summer.
If you find you have mainly Water features, your dominant emotion is fear, your skin tone has a tinge of blue, your lower cheeks are full and project a fluid, amorphous shape to your face, your ears and hearing are sensitive, most of your ailments are re- lated to the Qi of your kidneys either physically, emotionally, or spiritually, the ends of your sentences trail off sounding like little groans, the north is your significant di- rection, and you are most affected by the cold and winter.
If you have mostly Wood features, your dominant emotion is anger, your skin has tones of green, you have a rectangular-shaped face, your eyes and sight are focused and intense, most of your ailments will be related to your liver, the east is your signif- icant direction, and you are most affected by the wind and spring.
Remember when you are evaluating personality types for yourself and others to keep in mind the inherent supports and conflicts among the elemental types. For instance, if you are a Fire element type, then you would normally feel most comfortable and supported by a person who is a Wood element. In turn, you would be especially supportive to Earth element people.
That organ imbalance, however slight or pronounced, will ad- versely affect our physical, emotional, and spiritual constitution for our entire lives. That does not mean that all people who are of the Metal element type, for exam- ple, will have lung disease or be in a constant state of grief, or that all Water people will be troubled by their kidneys and be debilitated by fear. It does mean, though, that there is more of a chance that during extreme vulnerability the ailments and emotions associated with these organs will present related challenges in life.
It is important to remember that our challenges are most often our gifts as well. Our lives are enriched beyond imagination after having gone through these rough spells. It is a wonderful gift to know the strengths and limitations associated with our constitutional natures. It helps us to choose the best lifestyle, diet, and exercise to nourish and strengthen our imbalances.
I realize that this theory of living might sound strange or even a little daunting to those of us accustomed to a more Western approach. In this practice we are referring to a system of balances, and since everything is always and constantly changing, com- plete balance is never possible. My answer is always a resounding no. It is impos- sible to do, and to dedicate our lives to achieving the impossible would be frustrating indeed.
To attempt this would create illness of mind, body, and spirit. Our imperfections make us insightful, brave, strong, unique, and lovable. Always strive to grow, to learn, to teach, and to love, and you will be as balanced a person as you can and need to be. You might find that you are overwhelmingly one element, or a combination of two, or even three.
You might also discover that you are quite deficient in one or two of the elements. Hopefully, this knowledge will give you greater insight into your be- haviors, natural gifts, and challenges and illuminate why you make some of your choices in life.
Use this wisdom to nurture those gifts and to appreciate and develop creative new ways to recognize and face your challenges. To get the best results from this test, consider each of the twenty questions and then choose one of the five answers that best describes your behavior or personality in that situation.
For instance, when you have a question such as number thirteen, where you are asked to consider what kind of tree best fits your personality, choose the one that represents who you actually are, not the tree that you would prefer to be like.
Some of my students and clients have told me that if they find that they identify with every single answer, or cannot decide between a couple of them, they ask them- selves which answer their family and friends would choose for them, and that usually gives them helpful insight.
My movements are a. I could most be described as: In an emergency situation such as an accident, if I am in a group, my role is most likely to a. My ideal first date would be a. My sweetie and I are celebrating our first year together. I am going to a business conference where spouses or loved ones are welcome. I am most likely to a. When my loved one is away for several days on business, I a. Giving a dinner party is a.
If a friend betrays me, my nature is to a. If I were water, I would be described as a. If I were a tree, I would be described as a a. If I were fire, I would be a. If I were made of earth, I would be described as a. I am attending an office seminar where my office team will have to role-play assigned scenarios. When someone looks me in the eye, I think they are responding to my a.
When my friend is in an emotional crisis and asks me for good advice, I a. I wish I had more control of a. I do my best work when a. I am in charge b. I love what I am doing c. I know I can be of service to others d. Check the words or phrases that most accurately describe your personality, behavior, or traits.
Of course, these words or phrases often describe us all at some time or other. What we are establishing in this test is which ones describe us accurately and consis- tently in most situations or behaviors. But that does not accurately describe a competitive personality—one who is always competing, is forceful, and above all needs to win.
Just as a person who can be romantic with their loved one might not be considered a romantic personality—one who approaches most relation- ships and situations from a heart-first, above all else, romantic perspective. Most of us, however, are a little of this and a little of that.
The following profiles of each of the Five Elements are to help you determine which elemental type, or combination of types, you relate to most. I asked what situations gave him stress, and he immediately replied that his upcoming state med- ical board examinations were extremely stressful.
I waited a minute, and then he started to smile. Ask them how they respond to stress? You should begin to see a pattern emerging that will help you to identify your Five Element type. Fire and joy, Earth and worry, Metal and grief, Water and fear, Wood and anger.
The emotion that consistently surfaces when you are under stress physically, men- tally, or spiritually helps to define your Five Element personality type. It is not how you deal with this emotion but simply that this is the particular emotion that emerges that is significant. Does that mean that you are wildly fearful, too scared to take a risk or even step out your door? Not by a long shot.
It merely means that when stressful events occur in your life, such as being startled, confronted, encountering unfamiliar situations, or experiencing a significant loss, the primary emotion that you will immediately feel will be fear. Or not. The person who never experiences fear by denying its presence, or who is constantly pushing the envelope of fear, is also a Water personality type. Evel Knievel is my favorite model of a Water personality who deals with fear in his own unique way.
He has propelled his motorcycles over the tops of burning barrels, barely skimming the flames, jumped his bike over fourteen Greyhound buses, and been towed at two hundred miles per hour behind a race car while holding on to a parachute. His whole life has been dedicated to pushing the boundaries of fear.
It is natural and healthy to feel all of the core emotions at the appropriate times and under the appropriate circumstances. If you never, ever feel anger, that is not healthy. If you deny your grief in a severely sad situation, that is unnatural. Any emo- tion that is suppressed or denied has as much of an effect on us as our excessive or out-of-control emotions. Understanding the characteristics, traits, and behaviors of the five different per- sonality types deepens your understanding of yourself and others, enriching your life in a multitude of ways.
The more intimately we know our family and friends, the eas- ier it is to observe their reactions and behaviors, helping us to assess which personal- ity type or types they fit. But what about strangers, or the people you do know but who never give you a clue as to what emotions and feelings motivate their behaviors? This is where Mien Shiang is an invaluable tool.
Since each face shape and facial fea- ture is associated with one of the Five Elements, you can know a great deal about any- one simply by observing and studying his or her face. The Gifts and Challenges of the Emotions Historically, the personality traits of the Five Elements have been presented in nega- tive terms.
As you have probably already noticed, the five significant emotions asso- ciated with the five basic personality types appear to be rather critical, except one.
I want to be Fire. In response, I explain that something was lost in the trans- lation from the ancient Chinese dialects, and that the joy of the Five Elements more realistically translates to too much joy, or mania.
In a way, that is the point. Each of us is born with innate gifts and innate challenges. Our gifts can be a challenge to us at certain points of our lives, and the lessons learned from our challenges often turn out to be our greatest gifts. Suppose you are a Wood personality, and your primary emotion is anger.
Most people can see the challenge of anger, but they have difficulty seeing the gift of anger. Yet, when you realize that the appropriate expression of anger is about protection, you can then see how harmful it is to yourself and to others not to fully utilize your natural gift. And as you will learn later when we explore the Wood personality in greater depth, the other side of anger is passion.
If you suppress one, you will inevitably suppress the other. To be healthy, happy, loving, evolving, and giving beings, we must discover our true selves. We must embrace and explore our natural abilities so that we may fully re- alize our potential. The Qi can also tell us if someone is out of balance physically, mentally, or spiri- tually. For instance, if you have determined that your friend is predominantly a Wood type, you would expect his healthy Qi to emanate from his feet or legs and to move steadily and straight up his torso.
But if his Qi is sluggish or even undetectable, you know he is out of balance. The Emotion of Wood All Wood people have a temper. Not necessarily a quick temper, nor even a frequent one, but a big one. When they do get mad, they get mad. My best advice is that when it happens, duck. They like to slam and throw things. Rage attracts rage in others, keeping the anger alive and growing, and often danger- ous.
Some Wood types overcompensate for their temper by being overly nice, but you can feel their underlying anger and need for control. You can see it, too, in the intensity of their eyes, and in the tension in and around their eyes, jaws, shoulders, and chest. When I suggest that anger can be a positive emotion, I am met with adamant arguments often from re- pressed Wood types.
Righteous anger, I have to explain, is a positive and integral component to keep- ing our societal values and behaviors in check. The Wood person who uses his or her anger appropriately is often the person who protects us. It is the self-righteous and abusive anger that has given anger such a bad name. It is as much their gift and challenge as anger is. To live your life passionately, to fully embrace everything that you do and feel, does not guarantee you a perfect life, but it will be a powerful and productive one.
The challenge, especially for the Wood person, is not to let your passions overwhelm you so that you become insensitive to other people and situations. Of course, we all have anger—not just Wood types—and most of us have a hard time suitably expressing it. You will be healthier in mind, body, and spirit if you con- vey your anger appropriately and in the moment. How many times has a supervisor, coworker, or employee infuriated you, but expressing your anger would only have made matters worse?
Many similar circumstances require us to hold in our anger. What do we do then? If we cannot express the anger when it originally comes up, we need to release it as soon as possible. Stored, old anger is toxic and can take its toll on our health. A good first step is to acknowledge that you are angry. This admission can allow you to let the anger fall away. We hold on to our anger for a myriad of reasons, and whatever yours may be, try to see that you can gain much more by letting go than by hold- ing on.
Acupuncture has been found not only by Traditional Chinese Medicine, but by Western medical studies, too to be a great release for stored, old anger.
Regulated ex- ercise such as walking, bicycling, tai chi, Qi Gong, and yoga helps, too. If passion is not one of your natural gifts, open your heart and mind a little to the idea of living more passionately. See how it feels; think about how it could enhance your relationships or even your work.
It might not come easily or quickly, but I truly believe that your life will be improved with even a little bit more passion. Just like the tree with which they are associated in the Five Element theory, they are strongly rooted in their beliefs, especially about their own abilities, ideas, goals, and approaches. Wood people are good at enforcing what they want or believe. What makes it slippery is that they are more in- terested in enforcing what they believe to be true, rather than what really is true.
As you might imagine, many politicians and corporate heads are Wood. The nature of Wood people is to move forward or up, so if they become stuck or are only moving laterally, they can quickly become depressed.
Making plans is im- portant because planning represents the future and movement. If they cannot partic- ipate in planning and progression, they will become unduly angry, moody, unfocused, and frustrated.
Wood people are self-referential. To win them to your side, present the issue to them in terms of how it will affect them and their interests. They are the doers, not the followers. They will quickly try to take control and lead the way to resolution.
If they have to circumvent or break a few rules, so be it. But un- der extreme stress they can either overplan or freeze and become indecisive. They believe so strongly in their own good intentions of restoring justice or rescuing the underdog that they can lose perspective. The more you fight Wood personalities for control, the harder they will hang on.
Believe it or not, the best way to get Wood people to listen to you in adverse circumstances is to relax, or even tease them. Wood Relationships Wood people get along well with other Woods as long as they are fighting for the same causes. The sharp and cut- ting Metal person can keep the Wood person under control, but can have a difficult relationship with him or her for the same reason. The Water and Wood relationship is a compatible one. Wood and Boundaries The Wood person definitely has an issue with boundaries.
Wood is always creating them and breaking them down. Wood is very aware of what belongs to him, and where his physical and personal boundaries begin and end. He does not have an open-door policy; if he invites you in, you are probably welcome. If you cross a boundary without permission, you will evoke an angry response. He could be invading as a bully, or because he wants or needs something in your space and trusts his invading motivations to be honorable.
That you might object to or question his good intentions will probably anger him— even though the reverse situation, you invading his space with your own good inten- tions, would not be tolerated. Wood has an explicit double standard about boundaries.
The upside to Wood people pushing boundaries is that they are the protectors of society, constantly looking to right the wrongs of the world. Woods are powerful adversaries and defenders. Creativity, without competitiveness, can heal the stressed Wood person. Focus helps Woods make decisions and accomplish their far-reaching goals.
Passion, the wonderful other side of anger, helps Wood people to fulfill their dream of making the world a better place. Think of pro basketball players and their long, strong, rectangular bodies running across the courts. Because Wood people are physically active, they tend to have little body fat. Their arms and legs are tight and sinewy, with defined muscula- ture. Unfortunately, though, the Qi often gets trapped in the shoulders and chest, or behind and around the eyes.
It is the tension and suppressed anger that cause this stuck Qi. There are two Wood body types. I have dubbed them the Redwood and the Cypress. Just picture any professional basketball player and you have the quintessen- tial Redwood body type: The second Wood body type is similar, but the Cypresses are shorter and more compact.
Think of those magnificent Olympic gymnasts who thrill us with their arduous rou- tines.
Every bit as athletic as the Redwoods, the more compact Cypresses use their fo- cus and energy differently, and their bodies reflect the difference. While the Redwood basketball player is in constant motion, aggressively invading or defending his own territory, the Cypress gymnast waits, still and focused, until the whistle blows, then suddenly is a whirl of motion, a force of extraordinary strength and concentration.
And then the Cypress lands and is again perfectly still. These are both Wood person- alities, and both body types reflect their competitive, focused, and intense natures. It is longer than it is wide, with thick eyebrows, prominent brow bones, focused eyes that often seem to be piercing, especially when they are angry, and a squared jaw.
When a green, or brownish green, tone or marking suddenly shows up on the face, especially near the brow bones, eyes, or jaws, we look to see if that person is experiencing excessive or repressed anger. Members of this group are passionate people and natural leaders. You recognize them by their intense gaze, strong brow bones, prominent eyebrows, and a rectangular face. These charming and spontaneous people come from the heart.
You recognize them by their oval-shaped face, sparkling eyes, and brilliant smile. Earth people are grounded, supportive people known for their nurturing ways. You recognize them by their full mouths and full, fleshy chins, cheeks, and earlobes. Quintessential Earth What makes a person a Metal element? Cool, clear, and elegant describes these organized and often philanthropic people. You recognize them by their long slender noses, high eyebrows, and prominent cheekbones.
Quintessential Metal What makes a person a Water element? Water people are wise and determined seekers of truth. You recognize them by their open, often dreamy eyes; their full lower cheeks; rounded upper forehead; and determined jaws. The Wood with Fire person fights Wood with Earth: The Wood with Earth person can for those who have no voice with his passion and lead others to success while nurturing their talents. His charm. His Wood is in his brow bones and his Fire Wood shows in his square jaws and Earth is in his shines in his eyes.
Wood with Metal: The Wood with Metal person Wood with Water: The Wood with Water person has the focus to create a cutting-edge strategy. Her will fight for his dreams. His Wood is in his strong Wood is in her rectangle-shaped face and her Metal eyebrows and the Water is in his large ears. The Fire with Earth person brings Fire with Metal: Her Fire is creativity and perfectionism ensures priceless creations. Her Fire is in the points in her lips and her angled cheekbones show her Metal.
Fire with Water: The Fire with Water person makes Fire with Wood: The Fire with Wood person is friends from the heart, motivating them through her spontaneous, yet still in charge.
His Fire is in his oval search for truth. Her Fire is in her pointed chin and her face and his Wood in his brow bones. Water in her high forehead. The Earth with Metal person Earth with Water: The Earth with Water person can make anything happen with support and poise.
Her Earth is in her full mouth and her Metal shows in Her Earth is in her wide chin and her Water in her her prominent cheeks. Earth with Wood: The Earth with Wood person is Earth with Fire: Her Earth passion to forge ahead. His Earth is in his broad, strong is in her full mouth and her Fire in her lively eyes. The Metal with Water person Metal with Wood: The Metal with Wood person balances an analytical mind with a creative imagination.
His Metal is in his long, narrow nose and her Water is in her high, round forehead. Metal with Fire: The Metal with Fire person will Metal with Earth: The Metal with Earth person perfectly organize a project making sure everyone is reaches out with compassion and keeps those happy.
Her Metal is in her high, angled cheekbones relationships solid. Her Metal shows in her high and her Fire is in her dimples. The Water with Wood person Water with Fire: His Water is in his prominent, rounded natural performer. His Water is in his strong jaws and forehead and his Wood in his strong brow bones. Water with Earth: The Water with Earth person Water with Metal: The Water is in organized mind.
Her Water is in her full lower cheeks, her full lower cheeks and the Earth in her wide chin. The Emotion of Fire Something was lost in the ancient Taoist translation of joy, the emotion associated with the Fire element. The true meaning is too much joy, an excess that in the present day we would call mania.
When Fire people are feeling balanced, they certainly do experience and radiate joy from deep within their hearts. For a Fire person, joy equals love. Without love, there is little chance for joy. Unfortunately, for Fire, love often does mean romantic love.
A Fire person who is not loved and does not love can experience severe depression and withdrawal. This is heartbreaking not only for Fire people, but for those who care for them. Despair is the complementary emotion to joy. Sadly, this is the state that Fire people experience far too often if their hearts are not full of or open to love. Their spontaneity, invariable laughter, delightful whimsy, and extraordinary charm keep them at the center of their vast, eclectic assortment of friends. Fun is the key to their every relationship and venture.
If they do not have fun at work, they quit. If learning is not fun, they will fail, no matter how smart or bright they are. They frequently have difficulty parenting babies; they do better once the children grow older and they can all have fun together. Fire people need love like other people need air and water.
They also need other people to feel complete; they simply are not good at being alone. If they do not love or feel loved, they tend to feel shame; they are ashamed of not being lovable or of hav- ing an empty heart. This often leads to severe depression. Their need for constant reassurance and approval causes Fire people to bond too quickly or inappropriately, ending in misunderstandings and hurtful situations.
This results in their not trusting themselves or anyone else, without realizing how they or- chestrated the misunderstandings by rushing or pushing the relationships. This same need to be connected to others makes Fire people excellent performers, glowing from the attention and adoration that comes from loved ones and strangers alike.
Fire people are born storytellers; they have creative exaggeration down to an art. Everything is bigger than it really is: They tell tall tales, not lies. And they have the most creative excuses. When Fire people hear music they have to move. It makes them feel calm and balanced. Jolting and nonharmonious sounds distress them, however, actually making them irritable and angry.
Though Fire people have quick, bright minds, their energy is scattered. They re- mind me of fireflies: For Fire people joy comes from without, not from within.
As much as they seek love, they also bring great joy to others.
When Fire people are hurt, they isolate themselves, hurting their hearts even more deeply. They are exceedingly intuitive with others, but not so much with themselves. This can be a great gift, or it can be intrusive.
The problem is that the Fire per- son is not good at distinguishing the gift from the intrusion. Fire people are so sensi- tive to emotions and pain of the heart that they overidentify and overbond with others to the point of sacrificing their own peace of mind, or even safety, to try to help ease the sorrow and anguish.
Their hearts are in the right place, but they often act inappropriately when at- tempting to cheer up their friends, or even strangers. Fire people need to be reminded that a good cry is fitting at a funeral—or even at a wedding. Part of their need to fix the heartaches of others reflects their own insecurities. A little reassurance, warmth, affection, and love can go a long way to remind the Fire person of his or her worth.
Fire Relationships Fire people can have lots of fun and loving experiences with other Fire people if they are willing to share the attention. They need to be careful not to start off with fast, in- tense relationships, which can quickly burn out or erupt in flames.
Wood people love Fire people in return because the way the Fire people light up when Wood people are around makes Wood feel powerful. Wood and Fire are good partners in most relationships, especially romantically.
They can be a good balance, or the Fire person can feel too subdued by the Water personality. Their behavior frequently re- sembles bright, flickering flames that invade and burn up everything in their path. Be- cause Fire people are all about their feelings and emotions and the need to bond, they have little patience for relationships to develop at what would be a comfortable pace for most others. The Fire person is easily and frequently infatuated and will push too quickly for intimacy on all levels.
Or, he might not no- tice and flitter away looking for fun around the next corner. Several scientific studies have proven that loneliness and lack of love and intimacy bring on physical illness. It is especially essential for Fire people to stay connected to others and not isolate themselves when hurt or feeling ashamed.
Even the littlest show of love can lift the heart a lot. Fires have either a very straight posture, or they slump. Both postures protect the heart. If you hold yourself very straight and tall, your trunk provides an inflexible bar- rier surrounding your heart. Slumping, with shoulders rounded, also gives the im- pression that you are protecting your heart from vulnerability and hurt.
No matter the posture, most all Fires have weak-looking, underdeveloped, or slightly caved chests. Fire people are always moving some part of their body, tapping their feet, fidget- ing in their chair, swaying to the music. If you want to torture Fire people, tie their hands behind their back and then ask them to tell you a story. Ask Fire people to stand still so that you can sense the direction of their Qi, the energy in their body.
Of course Fires will think that sounds like quite a lot of fun and will be eager to stand before you and have you look for their elusive Qi. This will be an amusing venture. You can make a silent bet with yourself before you begin on how many times you will have to remind them to be still.
The clearer and healthier the Fire person is, the more the Qi will disperse from the chest, the heart area, and their sparkling eyes. When Fires are out of balance, their Qi gets stuck in their chest, over- protecting their hearts. To me, the Fire body actually looks like a long, slender flame, flickering as though susceptible to any breeze that flutters along. Fires are known for their bright, open, and sparkling eyes.
The more pointed these tips are, and the more they are angled up- ward, the more they are considered Fire traits. Fire people often have a reddish or even flushed complexion. When red tones or markings such as blotches, pimples, or little red veins appear, especially on the tips of any of the features, we consider the possibility that the person has excessive emotions relating to the heart, especially heartache.
The Emotion of Earth Earth people, when learning that their associated emotion is worry, start worrying about it. It is appropriate to worry if your children are late, if your bank account is overdrawn, or if you have just lost your job. But when you ruminate about every choice and decision you have made or turn the possibilities over and over in your head to the point where you can no longer make your decision, your worry is Earth worry.
The trouble with worry is that it seldom goes anywhere, except round and round.